Like anxiety, stress
is a result of our responses to situations or people we experience in our life. The physical responses are, as I say in the Your Stress Response video, our natural reaction to feeling threatened. That threat could be real or in our minds. If we have experienced many different situations which increase our sense of being under threat and pressure we can start to feel overwhelmed and then we can start to experience anxiety.
Many clients say to me, when they come to for help, ‘I thought I was strong and that I could cope’
. Being stressed and coping has nothing to do strength.
Everyone has different levels of pressure that they can cope with before it becomes too much. Sometimes a client may experience three or four major life changes in the previous couple of years, such as divorce, moving house, bereavement, parenthood. Others may have had a longer-term situation, perhaps at work, where they feel they have no control. Other clients may have had nine or ten big negative life events happen and wonder why they aren’t coping and are feeling stressed.
There is no rule as to how much pressure one person should be able to cope with, we are all different.
When people have experienced a series of changes in their life or feel overwhelmed by work pressures, it is often that feeling of being out of control that is increasing our stress levels. Often I help clients look at what they can and can’t control, what they can and can’t influence. It’s a simple exercise, yet one that can make a big difference to how you think about things.
It is important to realise that you can learn to cope with stress and respond to situations in different ways. If you reduce your anxious feelings your stress levels will change.
We look at what triggers your stress response and different ways in which those can be reduced or changed. I may also teach you simple stress reduction techniques such as breathing and relaxation.
Many different situations can trigger our stress response:
- Difficulties at work
- Managing workload
- Setting Boundaries - Saying No!
- Colleagues behaviours and attitudes
- Managing your manager
- Life situations such as moving, divorce, bereavement
- Exam Nerves
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